Don't ignore the Red Flags

As you look at these lists of traits of human conisciousness in preparing to produce your personal list please take a look at the polar opposite of any trait you select. It is only important to be aware of the negative side so that when you see someone behaving in that fashion it can become a red flag. Too many red flags and it is time to move on quickly. Most divorced people I have interviewed tell me that they ignored the red flags, which is what got them in trouble. Please do not join that illustrious club with all the rest of us that have made that mistake.

Here is a new list of Attributes you can use in making your list.

I am adding this list of attributes. Many of these could be used on either list according to your thoughts on the subject. If you have ideas about attributes that could be added to the list please post them I would love to hear what you think.

adventurous	conventional, cautious
aware of opportunities	does not see opportunities
beautiful	unattractive, deceptive
calm	excitable, nervous
children well-behaved	undisciplined children
comfortable financially	broke, spend thrift
completes tasks	leaves unfinished, leaves hanging
connected	disconnected
conscious of strengths, weakness	unconsious of abilities
considers you an equal	controlling
consistant	unpredcitable
constructive	destructive
conversational	quiet
creator	victim, destroyer
deliberate	reckless, haphazard
dependable	irresponsible
detail-oriented	does not sweat small stuff
determined	stubborn
disciplined	disorganized, negligent
dynamic	dull, boring, passive
educated	unsophisticated, uneducated
education exceeds family	less education than family
effective	incapable, ineffective
efficient	incompetant, ineffective
emotionally sound	unstable, crazy
employment success	job hopper, failer at work
energetic	agitated
entreprenurial	does not take risks
financially secure	broke
fit	fat, unhealthy, unfit
focused	scattered, unfocused
gentle	rough
giving	taking, self centered
goal oriented	directionless
good	evil
good cook	does not cook
good cummunicator	quiet,  non communicator
good housekeeper	messy, lazy, disorganized
good job	under employed, unemployed
good listener	verbose, conversation hog
graceful	awkward, careless
handsome	unattractive, deceptive
hard working	lazy
harmonious	disruptive
harmonious with ex	hates ex
harmonious work personal life	work  personal life conflict
has direction	unfocused, lost
has enough time	always behind, late
healthy, fit	poor health, unfit
helpful	meddling, interfering
homeowner	rentor
HWP	out of shape
imaginative	uncreative, unimaginative
improves self	accepts status quo
independent	dependant, subserviant
inner beauty	vain
innovator	copier
insightful	lacks insight
intellectual	ignorant, uneducated
intelligent	imbecile, stupid
intuitative	investigative
involved	obsessed, uninvolved
kind	mean, aggressive, cruel
knowledgable	uninformed, uneducated
leader	follower, manipulator
loyal	unfaithful
meets financial obgligations	non credit worthy
men who have men friends	too self centered for friends
modest	ostentatious, immodest
motivated	unmotivated, lazy
numerous friends	loner, few friends
observant	oblivious
organized	inefficient, disorganized
polite	rude, ill manneredd
predictable	undependable, unpredictable
professional	unskilled, laborer
psychologically strong	weak psychologically
reliable	irresponsible, untrustworthy
respected	scorned
responsible	irresponsible, lazy
results oriented	effort wasted
romantic	practical, unromantic
rugged	refined
sane	unstable, crazy
secure	vunerable
seeks self improvement	satisfied with self
self employed	has job
self-assured	hesitant, doubtful
sober	drunk
social drinker	professional ,excessive drinker
stable	irresponsible, unstable
stress free	often stressed
strives	struggles
substance free	user, drugs or alcohol
substance free	user, drugs or alcohol
success in immediate family life	lack of family harmony
successful	failure, unprofitable
supportive of family obligations	non- supportive, selfish
supportive of your goals	non- supportive, selfish
talented	unskilled
timely	always late
tough	weak
trustworthy	untrustworthy
virtious	deceptive, unreliable
visionary	visionless
well- behaved	illbehaved
well mannered	ill behaved, obnoxious
wine drinker	non drinker
women who have women friends	too self centered for friends

These are a list of Attitudes you can use in forming your personal list.

accepting	rejecting
accepts  authority	rebellious
acheiver	gives up easily
analytical	illogical,disorganized
appreciative	envious
assertive	aggressive
balanced	extreme
carefree	lazy frivolous
cheerful	gloomy sour grumpy
church is important	does not attend
church is not important	attends church
city person	country person
compassionate	cruel, harsh, hateful
concilitory	inflexable
confident	arrogant, insecure
conservative	liberalconsiderate
considerate	thoughtless
country person	city person
courageous	reckless
courteous	rude impolite
democratic	dictitorial
devoted	posessive
does not live with animals	house is a managrie
does not want children	wants children
does what is right or necessary	does what is convenient
drama-less	draws conflict and negativity
dreamer	realist
emotionaly available	detached emotionaly, commited
emphatic	pitying
enthusiastic	apathetic indifferent
equal	superior
erotic	lustful
fair	partial, prejudiced, unjust
faith in oneself	lack of faith in oneself
faith in others	others cant be relied upon
faithful	adulturous
family person	avoids family
flexable	rigid, stubborn
forgiving	condeming
frenetic	calm
friendly	distant unfriendly hostile
frugal	wasteful spendthrift
funny	serious,obnoxious
generous	petty, stingy
genuine	fake
grateful	unappreciative ungrateful
habitual	unstructured
happy	brooding, unhappy
high self esteem	confident
high self-esteem	confidence
honest	deceptive, liar
honorable	decietful
humble	arrogant
imaginative	anylitical, mundane
inclusive	exclusive
inqusitive	uninterested, always right
jealous	envious covetous
joyful	unpleasant, unhappy
leads simple life	complex, busy, ostentaious
liberal	conservative
liberating	restrictive
likes children, babies	has no time, interest, in children
likes dancing	wall flower
likes to entertain	rather be home alone
likes yard work	needs yard service
lives with animals in house	does not
loving	hateful, mean, uninterested
mature	immature
merciful	cruel, harsh, hateful
modest	vain, ostentatious, immodest
natural	fake artificial, made up
not jealous	trusting
nurturing	self centered
observant	suspicious
open	mysterious, misleading
open minded, tolerant	narrow closed minded intolerant
optimist	realist
optimist	realist, negative
optimistic	negative unrealistic
outdoor person	couch potato, house bound
outgoing	shy
participant	spectator
party person	serious, antisocial
passionate	indefferent, cold, apathetic
patient	pushy, intolerant
peaceful	belligerent
persevers	gives up
persistant	lazy yeilding
polite	rude, impolite
positive attitude	negative
powerful	ineffective, weak, timid
punctual	late, not on time
realistic	naïve, impractical
refined	rugged
religious	agnostic
respectful	rude, self centered, demeaning
selective	easy, indescriminate
sensitive	hard, controlling, cold
sentimental	indefferent,unemotional
serene	agitated, troubled, disturbed
serious	flippsnt, funny, light hearted
sexual	frigid, asexual
sharing	stingy
sincere	dishonest
social	anti-social, quiet, unfriendly
spiritual	lost, materialistic
spontaneous	deliberate, predictable
sports lover	couch potato
sympathetic	unsympathetiic, uncaring
tender	hard, controlling, cold
thoughtful	mean, rude
thrifty	friviolous, spend thrift
tolerant	judgemental
travels	stays home
trusting	gullible, insecure, disbelieving
unifying	devisive
unpretentious	ostentatious, pretentious
unselfish	self absorbed
wants children	does not
wants to see the world	rather stay local
warm	distant, cold
work oriented	lazy, shiftless
works, not obsessed with work	workaholic

This list is probably incomplete...if you have suggestions of Attitudes to add please let me know